Emotional Awareness – Are You?

Twenty years ago, the idea of emotions having an impact on personal and professional success, productivity and performance was given a new name: emotional intelligence. Emotional intelligence (EI), first defined in an article by psychologists Peter Salovey and John Mayer, is “the subset of social intelligence that involves the ability to monitor one’s own and others’ feelings and emotions, to discriminate among them and to use this information to guide one’s thinking and actions.” Popularized and expanded by Daniel Goleman, EI or EQ (aka Emotional Quotient) has remained relevant in the fields of organizational development and leadership development. It is worth noting however that in terms of the evolution of organizational development, the concept of emotional awareness is still in its infancy.

Robert K. Cooper stated “Your emotional memory provides a high gear that stimulates forceful self-regulated action for making new choices that move you toward what really matters in life.” Being aware of your emotions means being able to manage them and manage them appropriately. While you can stimulate, inspire, and detect emotions in others, you cannot control their emotions. Only they can manage theirs, and you, yours.

When you are emotionally aware, you are conscious of others’ emotions and are more able to bring out the best of their behaviour and performance. When you are emotionally unaware, you cannot relate well to others and engage them, and you are more likely to cause dissatisfaction, conflict, and performance dysfunction.

In today’s knowledge-based organizations employees must use their higher-level brain function to achieve performance objectives, and higher-level brain function is not possible with low-level negative emotions. As a leader, not only must you be a master of your own emotions, you must also know and understand the emotional makeup of the people you lead.

The skill of Positive Presence is your innate ability to adjust for and create a positive and energized mindset through conscious thought processes and seeks to enhance the development of positive high-level emotions and drive productive behaviour patterns.

As leaders, it is your duty to be creating a positive and energized environment within which to work. Emotional awareness, Emotional Intelligence and Behaviour intelligence are just three of the many skills that we need for high-level performance in today’s knowledge-based organizations. The skill of Positive Presence and the Positive Presence Behaviour competencies are critical for any team, department, or organizational transformation.

CORPORATE HARMONY is grateful to Dr. Michael E. Frisina for his contributions to this entry.

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Emotional Awareness – So What?

Stress impacts your behaviour as a leader, your mental capacity, and even your physical health. Your ability to manage the stress of today’s work world is largely dependent on your ability to develop emotional awareness. That being said, developing emotional awareness aids not only in your ability to manage stress but to continue to develop your leadership behaviour and create highly productive teams and performance.

Human emotions are as complex as they are varied. In a span of one day, we all experience a significant number of emotional highs and lows. An average person in a high-stress environment may experience even more. Emotions do not take a break, even when we need a break. They are always present, influencing your own and others’ behaviour, performance, and interactions.

Enlightened leaders are adept at handling their emotions, and this competency is useful for everyone they interact with. It sets them free from negative energies that can be stirred up by emotional interactions. It also places them in a position to model emotionally balanced behaviour. More important, it enables them to be responsive to others’ needs, which is a primary contributor to employee engagement.

Enlightened leaders take care in what they say and do because they know they are being watched all the time. During a crisis or contentious event, employees may even be expecting an emotional reaction from their leaders. Having emotional awareness and emotional control does not mean repressing feelings … it means making a conscious effort to stay focused, composed, and even tempered.

No one benefits from a leader whose first reaction to a bad situation is to scream at everyone around them, or who breaks down in public when they feel overwhelmed. Conversely, no one benefits from a leader who is so emotionally closed up that they cannot show compassion, affection, or joy when necessary or appropriate.

Employees relate to their leaders on an emotional level. So a leader’s mood, feeling, attitude, and behaviour have a significant impact on their employees. A leader’s lack of emotional awareness could leave employees physically, mentally, and emotionally distressed, and often leads them to disengage.

CORPORATE HARMONY is grateful to Dr. Michael E. Frisina for his contributions to this entry.

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In Pursuit of Performance (not Perfection)

“Gentlemen, we are going to relentlessly chase perfection, knowing full well we will not catch it, because nothing is perfect. But we are going to relentlessly chase it, because in the process we will catch excellence.” Legendary football coach Vince Lombardi uttered these words As a football coach guides and directs a team of players focused on purpose, vision and championship objectives, we do the same as leaders in our organizations. Sport teams have objective standards of measurement for performance, as do we in our respective organizations striving for excellence in pursuit of our organizations goals and objectives. We would like to be perfect, no one likes to make mistakes, sadly though perfection is often an impossible goal to achieve and the means by which we try to attain perfection can lead to negative and destructive work environments.

That’s why as leaders, using collaboration as the means to build teams, we can drive performance, share governance and responsibility, and establish accountability for performance, and provide the greatest opportunity for achieving a culture of performance excellence.

Developing and enhancing your skill of Positive Presence changes your mental programming – developing resilience and self-discipline. Developing your inherent skill of Positive Presence will help you achieve the intended performance results you desire, and it aids dramatically to managing your responses to the events and crisis that occur in your daily life.

Ultimately performance is a function of technical skill and behavior skill. Resilience (aka mental toughness, aka cognitive strength) and self-discipline is necessary to manage adversity and the associated stress of challenging events, and is the essential behavior skill that drives performance of individuals and their organizations. Positive Presence Behavior Competencies – self-awareness, collaboration, and connection – are the key drivers to organizational performance, and resilience is one of the essential behavior skills. By building resilience and practicing the elements of self-discipline, you will create a strong capacity to meet and exceed any of life’s most challenging events.

CORPORATE HARMONY is grateful to Dr. Michael E. Frisina for his contributions to this entry.

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Being ‘Teachable’

Developing the skill of Positive Presence and the Positive Presence behavior competencies results in the kind of focused mental model that opens a person up to learning or being “teachable.” Being teachable, in turn, provides the following advantages:

1. A pool of sources, experts, mentors, and colleagues.
Health care, for example – from administration to delivery – is a team pursuit; it cannot be carried out in isolation. To think otherwise is absurd, because one person’s knowledge, experience, skills, insight, and talent (no matter how great) will never be sufficient for the flow of change, challenge, and chaos that hits organizations on an ongoing basis. Many arrogant leaders try to function alone, but doing so is a disservice to the organization because it limits everyone’s capacity to grow and improve. Mentally tough leaders are lifelong learners. As such, they develop a wide network of people on whom they rely to gain insight and information and with whom they exchange advice, strategies, and solutions. This circle is diverse, comprising followers, colleagues, leaders from other organizations, professional mentors or coaches, and friends. Everyone in this circle benefits from the shared learning.

2. A feedback mechanism.
People who are teachable are making a humble and courageous admission: I need to improve. In the process of improvement and learning, feedback is mandatory. Otherwise, a person will not know if they are applying the learning correctly or if they are making progress toward a desired goal. Mentally tough minds expect and welcome feedback from every source of learning, especially challenging situations.

3. Opportunities for creative thinking.
Creative decision making and problem solving is in danger of becoming obsolete in today’s damage control mode of health care and business. In times of crisis, proposed solutions are often viewed as either/or options, not as pathways to other ideas. Every lesson learned, no matter how devastating, offers an opportunity for creative exploration, as this quotation from community planners involved in rebuilding after Hurricane Katrina supports: “I think we’ve got to look beyond ourselves to come up with the most creative way of creating a health care system. (Our) purpose is not just to provide quality, culturally competent health care. (Our) responsibility… is to do that, plus engage the healthcare system so (we) can transform it.” Mental toughness is a form of mental programming that enables us to manage our thoughts in such a way that we behave according to our conviction and according to practices that yield high level performance.

As you develop your skill of Positive Presence and the Positive Presence behavior competencies, the consequential positive emotional energy will grow exponentially to decrease stress, increase performance, improved health, and create overall greater job satisfaction.

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The Top Three attributes of Cognitive Strength

The following are the top three key attributes of cognitive strength (aka resilience , aka mental toughness) we confront in our daily lives where the ability to have self discipline and resilience is critical to success:
1. Priority Management. — All of us are pressured to do more with less time, to the extent that “being busy” is no longer seen as a pat excuse but an unfortunate reality. The discipline to manage priorities with limited time is invaluable; it requires scheduling the priorities, rather than prioritizing the schedule. Self-disciplined leaders understand the difference between urgent and important tasks, and they have a well-organized system for dealing with each category of tasks along with other nonessential issues that inevitably come up.
2. Personal and Professional Decisions and Choices. — Self-disciplined leaders are known to have orderly, stable lives. Their choices are predictable, and their decisions are prudent. They do not get caught in momentary lapses of judgment, nor do they place themselves in situations that will hurt their reputation or cause others to doubt their values. Their words and actions are always aligned, and their public and private personas are consistent with each other.
3. Conduct. — Observable behavior is a major determinant of self-discipline. For example, in a crisis, a self-disciplined leader responds and reacts calmly; stays focused on the task at hand; offers and seeks solutions proactively; reserves blame and criticism until all facts are in, and keeps them private in the process; and displays genuine concern and care. A self-disciplined leader shows appropriate but not over the top emotions. In addition, this leader is a visible presence throughout the workplace and is regularly available to all staff, which engenders a mindset that the leader is accessible.
Usually associated with athletics, cognitive strength (mental toughness) is a critical contributor to performance excellence. Cognitive strength (aka mental toughness, aka resilience) builds and strengthens your resolve, drowns out doubt and fear, and prepares you for the unanticipated.
Having cognitive strength alone does not guarantee that a leader will become an excellent performer, but it is an essential starting point. The skill of Positive Presence is inherent in each one of us, but for many, it is under-developed. Developing and enhancing your skill of Positive Presence will provide you with the thought processes needed for cognitive strength.

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Resilience (aka Mental Toughness, aka Cognitive Strength)

How you manage the responses to events in your life speak volumes about the outcomes you will experience, both personally and professionally. What’s more, how you manage the responses to events in your life also affects every single relationship you have, on some level.

Resilience is managing adversity (the life event) and the stress associated with it. Part of developing the appropriate response to events in our lives is creating a resilience capacity – the ability to bounce back from life’s challenges using the attributes of mental toughness (cognitive strength) and self-discipline. The capacity for resilience requires a positive and energized mindset. It requires your skill of Positive Presence. The skill of Positive Presence is your ability to adjust for and create a positive and energized mindset through conscious thought process. Positive Presence is a learned skill, and as with many skills, like riding a bike or doing a dance move, the more you practice, the easier and more natural it becomes.

Mental toughness, often referred to as cognitive strength, is a hallmark character trait of high-level performers. It is a person’s determination, focus, and emotional control under pressure. Mental toughness is not inherent; it is learned and developed over many years.

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Leading Under Stress – What Does it Look Like?

Part of our understanding about stress and managing our response to it, is being aware of and using the strengths of our individual behaviour patterns. We all know that change and chaos are constants in our knowledge and technology driven world. John Maynard Keyes wrote, “The hardest thing is not to get people to accept new ideas; it is to get them to forget the old ones.” Yet, with all of this change and resulting chaos, both enlightened leaders and their organizations continue to thrive.

So what distinguishes enlightened leaders from those who are not? How do enlightened leaders overcome the reality of the Keyes’ quotation? A common denominator among successful enlightened leaders is they have discovered and use their emotional energy and behaviour strengths to propel themselves and their organizations to peak performance. Awareness of your emotional energy and an understanding of your behaviour strengths is key in your pursuit of becoming a more enlightened and transformational leader. As you build your awareness and understanding you naturally create and positively influence the relationships you have with other people.

Enlightened leaders know that placing emphasis on building their strengths can mitigate the impact of their weaknesses. Rather than try to compensate for their own level of performance in an area of weakness, enlightened leaders build highly functional teams and surround themselves with the right people to compensate for their own performance inadequacies. Enlightened leaders are so secure in who they are and what they believe that they aggressively seek out team members who balance their strengths and weaknesses.

One misconception about the playing to your strengths strategy is that it prevents a person from trying a new approach or imposes a limitation in the event of an organizational or market change. Another fear is that the successes gained from this strategy can be short term and may derail a person’s career because all he knows to do is to stick to what he does well. These beliefs may be true from the technical skills perspective, and we do recommend that leaders continue to learn and expand their technical skills. When we are talking about playing to behaviour strength however, this kind of thinking is misinformed.

The Positive Presence behaviour competencies recognize that when we play to our behaviour strength, it is much easier to maintain positive emotional energy and the higher-level brain function that is necessary for performance driven behaviour and a high performance team. Learning about your own behaviour strength and the behaviour strength of others equips you to easily control your emotional energy, as well as influencing the emotional energy of others.

Behaviour skill drives technical skill, and when leaders leverage their behaviour strength and rely on the behaviour strengths of others to support them, they can bring about improved technical performance, better interpersonal relationships, innovative solutions to problems, and consistent positive outcomes. How would you like to work for this kind of leader and their organization? We would too!

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Leading Under Stress – The Choice Is Yours

There is no doubt that stress impacts your thinking and decision making, and it impacts how you choose to react in any given situation. As a leader, stress will impact everyone in your workplace that experiences you in a negative disruptive behaviour pattern under stress. As an enlightened leader it is important to effectively lead through the stress so that it does not negatively affect your individual performance and the performance of your team. At The Center for Influential Leadership we advocate the use of the model of E+R=O. Jack Canfield introduced this concept to behaviour management over 26 years ago. The “E” represents events; these are stressful assignments, challenging situations, or difficult workplace dynamics. “R” is the response, the conscience decision that you as a leader choose to make when confronting the stressful situation or event. “O” is the outcome, the result of the response that you consciously choose related to the events in your life.

As an enlightened leader, practicing the skill of Positive Presence and the Positive Presence behaviour competencies of self-awareness, collaboration and connection, you will choose to make the conscious decision to affect outcomes in the most optimal and productive way. These decisions are based on your individual behaviour, and these individual behaviours are guided by your core values and thinking process that translate to how you, as the individual leader, choose to behave.

What is important to note and accept is that stressful events, challenging work environments and situations, are going to happen. As leaders we cannot prevent events from occurring. We cannot re-program our organizations and departments in such a way that will prevent stressful events from happening. Understanding that disruptive events will happen, helps you to appropriately respond to them. What you can prevent and what you can control is a negative and ineffective response to these events when they happen. When you choose to behave incorrectly to an event, it will result in a negative outcome.

Individual leader behaviour is the singular most important predictor to organizational performance. When placed in stressful environments or situations, choosing to behave inappropriately to these events hinders peak performance. When faced with uncertainty, chaos and crisis, it is critical to choose the response (behaviour) that will yield the most beneficial outcome for your organization, for your people, and for yourself.

You cannot however, expect to have beneficial outcomes, if you do not manage and control your emotional energy that drives your behaviour. When we understand the importance and power of our own unique emotional energy, we can then take control of our behaviour and the outcomes of any situation. As a leader you make the choice. Choose to respond poorly and you should expect a poor outcome. How you choose to lead under stress is indicative of your individual leader energy and behaviour, and your individual leader behaviour will always impact performance.

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Leading Under Stress – What Does it Feel Like?

Stress, defined by Merriam-Webster’s dictionary, is “a state of mental tension and worry caused by problems in your life and work; something that causes strong feelings of worry or anxiety; physical force or pressure.” In today’s business and health care workplace environments, stress is something you confront on a daily basis, especially amid a global pandemic.

This is something that goes beyond saying, because for many leaders stress is a daily component of the workplace environment. In fact, many of you have had to continually confront stress so often on a daily basis that you have become accustomed to thinking that you actually perform quite well under stress.

As a result of extensive research in the field of neuroscience, we now know that our biological response to stress is an automatic release of the ‘stress hormones’ (the two big ones are adrenaline and cortisol) while at the same time our higher-level brain function (pre-frontal cortex) is shut down in favour of the lower brain function of the limbic brain system. The research has proven that when we are constantly working in a stress-response environment the presence of the stress hormones in our system becomes chronic and begins to feel normal. Science has also shown that the continuous presence of the stress hormones in our system has a negative impact on almost every other internal system, including our immune system and our cardiovascular system.

The Mayo Clinic identifies that stress impacts us in any number of ways – from headaches and muscle tension, to causing depression, irritability and anxiety, just to name a few. At the onset, the most tangible evidence that stress is in play is through human behaviour – a lack of motivation, engagement, clarity and focus; an inability to make sound decisions; feelings of anger, frustration, fatigue and sadness; an attitude that is distrustful, contemptuous, dismissive and critical; just to name a few.

In the work environment, the passion and motivation that we associate with employee engagement, and the focus and clarity that we associate with high performance and productivity, as well as all emotionally intelligent behaviour that we learn about – these feelings, thoughts and behaviours, only occur when we are creating positive emotional energy within us and around us. The majority of work environments today are made up of knowledge workers – employees with advanced education (often professionals in their own right) who bring their expertise and specialisms together to achieve organizational goals. Their job requires them to use their higher-level brain function. When the biological response of stress shuts down their higher-level brain function, work performance is interrupted and diminished.

It is therefore critical that you become aware of your own unique warning signs of when you are moving into the negative-energy-flow of stress. It is also critical that you know the techniques and exercises necessary to deflect the stress and move back into a state of positive emotional consciousness. The skill of Positive Presence is your ability to adjust for and create a positive and energized mind through conscious thought process. This skill is a learned skill and as with many skills, like riding a bike or doing a dance move, the more you practice, the easier and more natural it becomes.

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The Human Factor

Improving the performance of an organization requires improving the behavioural performance of all of its people at a cultural level. An organization cannot become what its people are not. Simply stated, conforming behaviours within a collaborative culture really matter. It is the difference maker for performance. A commitment to a collaborative culture requires system wide integration and continuous improvement in consistent behaviour-based performance.

Similar organizations may share a common mission and purpose, but they do not share the fundamental elements of performance: the talent and motivation of the people who work within any given organization. The core of any culture is behaviour—the “how we do it around here” principle common to any organization. While an organization’s culture can take years to change, individual behaviour can change far more quickly. All you have to do is decide it is worth it and know you can do it. Conforming behaviour then becomes a natural part of the daily work routine, and this new daily work routine transforms the culture.

The real power of a culture of collaborative behaviour is the capacity to bring people together to create something of greater value than any one person could have created alone. From the Manhattan Project to Disney animation, people have come together to create, innovate and enhance performance far beyond what any one individual could accomplish.

Bringing people together requires key behavioural skills to release the combined effect of their technical skills and talents. No two people are alike. No two people will behave the same in any given situation. But we can set the expectation and provide the training. We need to take the time to answer self-reflective questions, purposefully and intentionally, to assess our current behavioural strengths and weaknesses. When we choose to understand our own behaviour and the impact it has on those around us we can start to create the type of culture that will allow us to create and sustain highly effective relationships that drive organizational performance.

CORPORATE HARMONY is grateful to Dr. Michael E. Frisina for his contributions to this entry.

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