No workplace is without a ’Negative Nellie’. You all either work with, or have worked with, that guy (or girl) that’s always complaining or trying to sabotage a good days work – or just plain toxic both in speech and/or behaviour!
Evidence is actually coming forth from brain science research suggesting that a person’s negativity not only diminishes the benefits of someone else’s positive flow … it can counteract it altogether. Our brain determines what we think, what we feel, what we say, and what we do. To ensure survival, our brain evolved a negativity bias, described by Dr. Rick Hanson in his book “Hardwiring Happiness”, as “making it like Velcro for bad experiences but Teflon for good ones.”
The good news is — every one of us has the ability to re-wire (through the neuroplasticity of our brain) for positive thought habits … and even better – unlike most everything else as we age — our ability to do this, if we have a healthy mind, does not diminish with age!
So, when we are in a positive flow of energy …. It is then that we are able to really connect and mesh within our self, and with others. What’s more, the more time we spend in a positive flow, the greater our capacity for achieving peak performance, for building and maintaining good relationships, for experiencing good health.
With the enormous advances over the last decade in neuro-imaging technology (watching the electro-magnetic activity in our brain) …. research in the field of neuroscience has exploded. Neuroscientists looking at cognitive functioning and behavior have suggested, simply put:
- We can assess our personal energy flow through our feelings.
- Feelings such as happiness and optimism can be linked to a positive energy flow, and feelings such as anger and frustration can be linked to a negative energy flow.
- We can change our feelings with our thoughts.
- It is through our thought process that we choose how to behave.
- And the bottom line is …. the measurable result of a person’s energy flow is reflected by one’s choice of behavior. Your behavior is in fact the physical manifestation of your energy flow.
Learning the skill of Positive Presence (an innate ability within each of you) is mostly a matter of self-awareness. Using the skill of Positive Presence you are able to consciously move yourself to a positive mindset that is necessary for a collaborative and productive workforce.

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You can actually ‘re-wire’ your brain for a higher skill level . You ‘re-wire’ by continuous reading, writing and reciting of information for creating new thought and behavior habits. This re-wiring occurs via the neuroplasticity of your brain.
In today’s work environment where people bring their mind and their expertise together for a common goal, and where virtual meetings and social distancing are the new normal, it is particularly critical that we take the time to figure out how we can come together, face to face, to acknowledge and clarify our purpose and our connection. This coming together, whether it’s around a desk, around a board room table, by way of a huddle or a video call, is crucial for success. It is this coming together that builds trust and enables us to truly appreciate our uniqueness and celebrate our differences, particularly in terms of speech, mannerisms and behaviour.
Positive Presence is your natural ability to adjust for and create a positive and energized mindset within yourself through conscious thought processes.
Epigenetics is the study of how the brain responds to physical stimuli of electromagnetic and chemical flow in the brain. This process triggers groups of genes to act in a positive or negative direction based on your emotional and/or physical reactions to life events. Life events plus your response to those events determine the outcomes of your life. Negative responses create negative outcomes, and positive responses drive more positive and optimal outcomes, even in the most challenging of life circumstances.
In December of 2018 my good friend and mentor, Dr. Michael Frisina, was published in the International Journal of Academic Medicine | Volume 4 | Issue 3 | September-December 2018.
So often we hear in leadership education that we are to “lead by example.” Too often this translates to leaders that if I want my employees to work as hard as I do, than that means I have to demonstrate it through my own initiative. Sadly this concept gets oversimplified. When leaders want employees to work longer hours, they think that they set that example by staying at work the longest. The reality is if you really want to impact your workforce and lead by example, start caring for the emotional and physical wellbeing of your people. Start appealing to the hierarchy of organizational behaviours that do exist in your workplace. Start respecting your people, start clearly and effectively communicating with your employees, and start demonstrating to them that their work is creating lasting meaning and has purpose.
In 1943 Abraham Maslow developed what many of us know as “Maslow’s hierarchy of needs.” His theory is that human psychology revolves around a five-tier model of human needs, often depicted as hierarchical levels within a pyramid. As you may know, lower level needs in the hierarchy must be satisfied before individuals can attend to needs higher up. From the bottom of the hierarchy upwards, the needs are: physiological, safety, love and belonging, esteem and self-actualization.
We have all been taught that the key to communication is listening. This is true, but you first must care before you can listen to understand effectively. Effective communication, as a highly influential trust behaviour, requires caring first, and seeking to understand before demanding to be understood. An old adage is applicable here: I do not care in how much you know, until you demonstrate to me how much you care. Displaying behaviour of compassion to another person opens their brain up to a willingness to listen. When people make a decision to shut you out of their lives because of your behaviour, effective communication with those people ceases.