You have probably heard the saying, “A truly great leader is hard to find, difficult to part with, and impossible to forget.” The same adage holds for bad leaders too, at least the “impossible to forget” part — this also holds for colleagues as well. Did you ever wonder why?
True story telling time: So Debbie (not her real name) is having lunch with a colleague. She has not seen her old boss in three years when suddenly, he comes through the door of the restaurant. Debbie quickly hides behind her menu. Her table mate is confused by her behaviour. Debbie is frantic that her old boss, whom she left three years ago, might have seen her. She is relieved when her table mate informs her that he dropped his keys on a table and went to the men’s room. Debbie quips out loud about her temptation to grab his keys and throw them in the trash. Her table mate is flabbergasted when Debbie informs her that they have to leave the restaurant! This really is a true story. So what is behind Debbie’s irrational behaviour?
Your brain drives all of your behaviour. From a neuroscience perspective, you might be surprised to learn that your memories are actually controlled by the way your brain works regarding memory storage and recall. This fact adds greater significance to a science based understanding as to why a leader’s behaviour is the singular most important predictor to a team’s performance. It is also a key predictor to employee engagement and individual performance as well.
You can have immediate and vivid recall of past bad leadership experiences because your brain doesn’t recall memory with an associated time stamp. The hippocampus is the part of your brain responsible for memory storage and recall. Working with a memory pattern recognition system, when you experience a new episodic event similar to a previous traumatic experience (Debbie seeing her old boss after three years), your brain recalls associated memory complete with all of the negative feelings that go with it. It’s like you reloading a document from stored computer memory, only without a time and date stamp on the memory and the emotional baggage the memory produces.
Learning the skill of Positive Presence will ensure that you are always aware of how your behaviour impacts all those around you. You learn how to read the energy in the room and the behavioural nuances. You learn the power of a positive mindset and the behaviours of collaboration and connection that are necessary for success in any workplace.
