Influential leaders are highly practiced with the skill of ‘Positive Presence’ and it places them in a position to model emotionally balanced behaviour. More important, it enables them to be responsive to others’ needs, which is a primary contributor to employee engagement. Most people are not born with the emotional awareness that comes with the skill of Positive Presence – it is, for the most part, a learned ‘skill’.
It is important to understand that the majority of your emotions arise from your subconscious – a life time of experiences and even past life times of experiences that were transferred to your DNA at the time of conception. When you hear people talk about ‘handling’ your emotions there is a process that we must consciously learn to do. Some people’s brains are naturally wired for this process, but for most of us, it is something that must be learned through awareness and practice. It is therefore critical that you learn to first acknowledge your emotion, second, identify your thoughts that the emotion triggers, and finally ‘see’ your behaviour and how it affects you and those around you.
Learning the skill of Positive Presence is, for most people, a slow and gentle process of learning — on the job, in real time. It is not something we learn in isolation, but it must be tried and tested in your workplace with your work colleagues – because, what works for one person, will not work for all. There is no ‘one-size-fits-all’ quick fix. Learning the skill of Positive Presence requires an open mind, a common vocabulary, and a will to change, flex and adapt. Learning the skill of Positive Presence will, by its very nature, create a culture of accountability and collaboration – a huge bonus and necessity in today’s global work environment.
CORPORATE HARMONY is grateful to Dr. Michael E. Frisina for his contributions to this entry.
