To be human means you need relationships which in turn necessitate social ability. Winning social behaviours are well documented, and according to Stanford Social Innovation Review, social competencies can be learned and developed with practice, the same way a 20 year old develops fluent language skills through training and practice. Some of the most sought-after social skills in a leader are:
• Optimism
• Compassion
• Politeness
• Emotional Intelligence
• Discipline
• Diligence
• Patience
• Affability
• Listen
• Forgiveness
• Resilience
• Responsibility
• Leadership
• Asking for help
• Honesty
People want to make a difference, but they can and will only do so when they have an emotional connection with their leader. If you want to connect you have to deviate from the outdated and ineffective practices of a “top-down” driven approach to leadership. As a leader you should be asking yourself daily, is my behaviour drawing people towards me or pushing them away from me? Learning the skill of Positive Presence brings with it an understanding of what endears your followers to you and is essential to understanding the great impact that connection has in driving performance and productivity in the workplace.
The four most noted reasons that people choose to follow their leaders are trust, compassion, stability, and hope.
Ineffective leaders breed ineffective followers and performance and productivity suffer as a result. Effective leaders build on the social skills of leadership to create connections. With a positive, energized, and emotional connection with your people you send a clear message that you are interested and invested in what your people experience on a daily basis.
